Is Breast Always Best?
Posted in 2 :: Julie, 3 :: Jared Jerome, Post Count and tagged with Friends, Rant on 12/21/2002 01:31 am by Julie4 Days until Christmas!!!
I should be in bed, but I couldn’t sleep… Laid there for almost an hour, but was still wide awake. I think I have too much on my mind.
I went back on mail at Website Mommies for a while, but went back to no mail today… I am thinking of leaving the group altogether, but don’t really want to tell Jenn… She’s been so nice to me… But I don’t really feel like I am fitting in anymore. I think I take things too personally… I am getting tired of getting looked down on, because I don’t have the same views as some people… Or did things differently… I feel I need to talk about this, and I hope you don’t mind if I unload on you????
I feel like I have been looked down on, because I didn’t breast feed my kids… I tried, I honestly did, but I don’t produce enough… With my oldest, Jared, I couldn’t even get anything out with a breast pump… But there’s a couple people who make it sound like I am a failure as a mother because “I gave up”… I don’t know why I keep stewing over it. It’s not like I really even know them… Maybe it’s because I have gotten the same thing from “friends” here…. Why is it that most people who breast feed, have to look down their noses at at those who can’t??? (Or choose not to)
There have been other things too… Like the fact that I told my kids that Santa is not real… I want them to know the real meaning of Christmas… I tell them that Santa is a fun part of Christmas, but that he’s just pretend, Like Bob and Larry, and Winnie the Pooh… Well this one person, whom I have the most trouble with, told me I was taking the joy out of my kid’s childhood…. Give me a break!!! ….I feel like I am always defending myself… I know, I am being overly sensitive, right???
I feel that the true test of parenthood comes not from whether you choose breast or bottle, or whether you had drugs or not during delivery… The true test is how you raise your children… Are they obedient, and respectful? Do they love the Lord? Are they kind and generous?… Or are they little monster brats that argue with you all the time?
Yes, I had a c-section for all my kids…. Did I fail? Yes, my kids were all on the bottle… Did I fail?… My kids are so sweet, well mannered, and adorable! They are such a joy to me!!!! They are smart, well adjusted, happy kids. Does it really matter that they were raised on Enfamil?
OK… I’m sorry for this little venting pity party… I just needed to get that off my chest… Hopefully no one will give me grief over this!!!!!!
Oh, I found another eGroup called “Christian Mommies”… I am going to try them out, as I know that they share the same beliefs as I do. I enjoy chatting in the groups, and making new friends… And I have a few very good friends I’ve made through Website Mommies, and we Email outside the group all the time… Most of them aren’t active in the main eGroup anymore either…..
Have a great weekend!
May 9th, 2008 at 11:04 am
ooooh julie, an old post, before i knew you, so i’d never read it. it’s a GREAT one!!!
i remember before i had major attitude issues with breastfeeding. i felt everyone should nurse. i still believe that everyone should at least TRY it, but if it’s not possible, or if it’s not for them, then by all means, use formula! it’s through my personal experience and through meeting others with similar experiences that my eyes were opened.
i think i know the jenn you’re talking about. is it lynch? we were month buddies for an online group i was in. i can’t even remember the name of it now…anyway, she’s nice.
i agree with you on all you said.
i love you!
May 26th, 2008 at 3:24 am
Julie you don’t fail at all in any way! I hate it too when my mom-in-law makes some nasty remarks on bottle feeding Ella. I tried and tried so hard, I even used pump but I could not get much! And my nipples are inverted and very short, while Ella’s chicks is so plump.She’s so chubby that when she tried to suck she cannot hold my nipple that long as her cheek bounces on my breast
Ignore all of them..they are not worth your time and friendship. And the Santa thing…it is really hard when people don’t have the same belief like we do and bash us about it